Opening
- Introduce yourself and your relationship to your loved one.
- Include a short poem, quote, or song lyrics that was a favorite of your loved one.
- Mention a saying that they were known for using often.
- Share a personal story that sums up their life, sense of humor, or passion.
- Don’t be afraid to use appropriate humor to lighten the mood.
Body
- Tell about the life of your loved one, perhaps from their childhood.
- Describe positive traits about them.
- Include Bible verses, poems, or eulogy quotes that will offer comfort.
Closing
- Offer condolences to loved ones in attendance.
- Consider ending with a quote or playing a favorite song. Remember to give your funeral director the song title and artist the day before so he or she can have it ready.
Helpful Reminders
Less is more
Don’t stress about the length of your eulogy, so keep telling yourself that “less is more.” Create a eulogy that you can deliver in around five minutes.
Keep it Personal
Share a story that illustrates something your loved one enjoyed—especially if you were also part of that story. If you can’t think of a firsthand story to share, talk to a close family member or friend and borrow one from them.
Keep it Written
Even people who earn a living making speeches use a written copy of their remarks. If the professionals use a written copy of their speeches, then you should too. Remember to practice your eulogy to make sure it’s long enough, but there is absolutely no reason to feel you must deliver your remarks from memory.
Tips
- Wear loose, comfortable clothing.
- Have a bottle of water handy, as well as a handkerchief or tissues.
- Have a back-up plan. If you can’t continue, have someone else on hand and prepared to deliver the speech for you. Give that person a copy of the eulogy before hand, just in case.
- Remember that it’s okay to show emotion. If you become emotional and start to cry, that’s perfectly normal. Take time to regain your composure, but if you’re unable, defer to your back-up person.